In the last presidential election, much was made about the so called “3:00 am phone call” referring to emergencies that might come up in the middle of the night and how the president would handle them. I can tell you that individuals can also get those calls, which I call the “middle of the night blues.” The difference is that these are not actual phone calls and they are not related to international situations. However, if you are single, separated, divorced or even married you probably have experienced middle of the night blues or anxieties. Continue reading →
Life can be so much fun. There are people to meet, places to visit, and exciting relationships to enjoy. It’s wondrous when it all works, and it’s terrifying when it doesn’t. Things happen. Horrible, horrific, and wonderful things – and these things come every day – every day we are experiencing something new. Even with the best-laid plans, we can find ourselves in the heat of a moment we didn’t plan for. Continue reading →
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Does it ever get better? First he told me that it was over. Just like that. Like a train that is unexpectedly racing towards you with its horn blaring and freezing you like a soon-to-be dead deer in its headlight. I didn’t believe Tom at first. It seemed to me that this was just another of those arguments that ends with “Why don’t just find someone else?!” But he did mean it and, gradually, I accepted that our family was about to become another divorce statistic. Continue reading →
Dr. Richard Gardner, psychiatrist, first described something he called “parental alienation syndrome ” in 1985 to explain problematic behavior in children who rejected their access parent on the basis of indoctrination or brainwashing by the custodial parent. While his research and description of issues did not meet the requirements and professional standards to establish a “syndrome”, and many have criticized his work, many still find merit in the concepts. Continue reading →
From alimony and child support to the equal distribution of property there are many things to consider and negotiate when a marriage has come to an end. As we see the age of divorcing spouses beginning to rise, special consideration must be given to issues that affect those clients close to retirement age. Continue reading →
When a relationship has ended, especially badly (for one or both parts of a couple), we tend to wish ‘the other’ moved to another neighborhood or better yet – another universe. Continue reading →
Some of these signs of a cheating spouse are “tongue in cheek” while others are tell tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife. There is no copyright. Feel free to forward to those who might be interested. But please don’t change anything. Continue reading →
Getting back into the dating world after a divorce comes with more than a few surprises. One of the most common, not to mention hurtful issues is when your new partner’s kids don’t have a fondness for you. No need to fret. Below are some tips to try the next time you’re around the kids. With a little understanding and new behavior, the problem might just go away as quickly as it came.
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Generally, when an executive works at a public company, a large percentage of family wealth is wrapped up in the stock’s value. During a divorce, because selling the stock may be prohibited – either by agreement or otherwise – the significant value of this stock must be protected from market ups and downs. We are often called upon to implement strategies that provide “peace of mind” to clients that are uncomfortable with this type of volatility and uncertainty.
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First, you may not be able to get along with your ex-partner. A good relationship requires the cooperation of both partners. If your ex isn’t interested in getting along with you, it won’t happen. What you can do is to stay in control of how you react to your ex-partner. This is the salvation of your relationship with your ex. You can be at peace with or without your ex. Continue reading →
