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Discredited “parental alienation syndrome” has practical relevance…
Dr. Richard Gardner, psychiatrist, first described something he called “parental alienation syndrome ” in 1985 to explain problematic behavior in children who rejected their access parent on the basis of indoctrination or brainwashing by the custodial parent. While his research … Continue reading
Helping separated parents communicate…
Communication between separated or divorced parents can be problematic. Depending on the age, health and circumstances of the child, these parents may find it necessary to communicate with each other anywhere from several times daily to at least weekly. For … Continue reading
The “Child-Up Parenting Plan”
Meaningful parental involvement provides for a lifelong relationship with children. For separated or divorced parents this can be achieved by a dynamic “child-up parenting plan” approach as opposed to thinking in terms of child custody and/or access..
Check out that Counsellor before attending
People are vulnerable when under duress. They seek counselling to reduce stress and resolve issues associated with troublesome events, conditions or problems. Their turmoil may have emotional, psychological and social consequences.
A Tale of Two Cities and Parent Alienation Syndrome
Perhaps the most contentious of all custody/access disputes are those involving allegations of one parent undermining the relationship of the children with the other parent.
Restricted access? Consider the long-term…
Many parents with severely restricted access hold tremendous rage or anger at agencies, institutions, courts or the custodial parent. However, their limited access may be more a consequence of their responses to problems, than the problems directly. Provocation by others … Continue reading
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Assessment Critique: Hired gun or dispassionate opinion
If a child custody and/or access assessment provides recommendations: 1. That do not make sense in view of the data 2. Have serious procedural issues or 3. May have been compromised by assessor bias then, an opinion on the reliability … Continue reading
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Critiquing Custody and Access Assessments
One of the challenges that faces people going through a divorce is settling a parenting plan. When parents cannot agree, their lawyers may suggest a child custody and access assessment. The goal of an assessment is to provide unbiased recommendations … Continue reading
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Preferred, Estranged or Alienated?
Divorce, when children are involved, is a common but complex process. Quite often the request for a child custody and access assessment comes hot on the heels of one parent alleging that the other parent is undermining or obstructing access. … Continue reading
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Divorced? Have a 100% relationship with your kids
Post separation, even if you achieve 50/50 residential time-sharing, will you have a 100% meaningful relationship with your child?
